Let’s forget the promises of 45 minutes full-fledged meditation. The girls showed up with earnest desire to share what was on their minds.
There were four of us, due to a rumour spread by an unknown pupil that all the workshops that day had been cancelled.
Lucky for us!
We came round a table, a little snack food, something to drink, and lots to discuss.
Friendship and possessiveness – How to deal with jealousy when my friend is with someone else?
Making friends – If right away I can’t get along with someone, they often become my best friends!
Being an introvert or an extrovert or both – I like being an introvert- I like books. I like being an extrovert, I like being kind of flirtatious. Me – I’m both and it’s hard!
Being issued ADD or ADHD and how it helps or not. My 2 friends always talk at the same time and it helps that I have ADD – no problem at all listening.
ADHD, I just can’t sit for long, I don’t have the ability!
Being smarter than others – I don’t have patience for all the time it takes in class for the others to understand. What’s so hard about it?
Feeling outside of things – I came to the school late. I don’t get all the references to past experiences. I have always been here, and I feel different, but I can cope.
Our pets and how they help us meditate (Maybe combine the dog-training workshop with the meditation workshop?) – When I feel sad, I just look at my dog’s face. Here, look! Who wouldn’t smile at that little face!
So many things to talk about. My role was to listen and offer advice when asked for it.
Like in this case about jealousy.
How do I deal with jealousy? When I don’t want my friend to speak admiringly of someone else? When I feel something eat at my heart.
Me: If you can catch the feeling of jealousy as it hits, there’s a chance to catch it in the bud. Apply humour, self-talk, recognition.
If it’s already full-blown and tears away at your soul, then that calls for sitting down in meditation, breathing and pinpointing the feeling, where it appears in the body. Allowing yourself to recognize it fully, then apply an image. How does it feel? What colour is it? Give it presence and give it identity. Name it! (Wilbert, for example). Realizing that it is an ‘it’ and not ‘me’ helps give distance, helps create space, helps us to cope with such an overpowering emotion.
We continued to speak, and then at the end of session bell, gently parted, thanking one another.
Until next year.